After posting my slave’s testimonial on his findom addiction I received a gazillion of messages, people asking me about this slave t, even a submissive’s gf asked me advice about how she can make her sub spoil her more. I haven’t even replied to her because I was puzzled by the question but I thought I should write about this here so that I avoid further questions and bring my some clarifications about my side of this findom story.
The findom cliche
First of all I think “findom” has become some kind of a cliche and in spite of that I must admit I still use this hashtag often on twitter and on my profiles, just because of lack of inspiration, I don’t know what other word to use to reveal my greedy nature, and that is: my love for pretty little things that bring me so much joy, just like shoes, jewellery, nice leather outfits and other sexy luxurious things. I do love to shop, travel and enjoy my life to the fullest so I think the word pretty much describes what I like and the way I am like a person…Some might call this kind of person a “bitch” but I wouldn’t go that far, I think when it comes to me, I can be called an independent and at the same time a spoiled woman.
A spoiled mistress
I want to reply to that message I received from that sub’s gf asking me how she can get spoiled more. The reason I didn’t answer in the first place was because I didn’t know what to say then. I don’t think there’s a secret to this. If that sub is a giver, and the mistress is a good receiver, then we have a good findom relationship. I think it has to be in the sub’s nature to like to give, and in the mistress’ personality to like to receive. There are women out there that are so independent they wouldn’t receive anything just out of pride. I’ve always liked to be shown appreciation and respect and receive a nice gift or a tribute as a sign of that. I find it thoughtful and I think it’s in the nature of a man to make a woman happy. As for me…it’s easy, shoes make me happy.
My take on findom definition
In my view, what it really means: as a woman letting yourself pampered, why I use “let” because in this century women are independent, skilled, trained, educated enough to get things for themselves, so you just accept a gift, although you could get that thing yourself. …(READ MORE)